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Divorced and independent and still looking for Mr. Right in the back of the fridge.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Take Two

Hebrew has a wonderful expression roughly translated to "corrective experience". It is part of the lexicon relating to everything from the mundane to the sacred - that opportunity to play out the scene again, this time with a different ending. The best I can find in English is that children's cry of "Do-over".    If we are sharp enough to recognize and create our opportunities, life can be filled with do-overs. Lot's of  do-overs. 

Many of us tried to do-over our fathers with our first marriage. 
Some of us tried to do-over our ex-husbands with our second marriage. 

So long after the second divorce, we (I) finally have it figured out that the only truly effective do-over is on ourselves. We are not going to correct anyone else. 

With the wisdom of hindsight, I trust myself enough to allow back into my life the same one that I've alluded to before, the one that makes my heart skip a beat. I know full well that he isn't going to be there for the long haul. But this time, I'm not going to let him get to me. 

I can't help but think of the expression: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

Now let's just hope that my heart cooperates and adjusts to the new set of rules. 


  1. Good luck - you're lucky to have someone who makes your heart skip a beat to try your theories on :)